We all look for reassurance sometimes. You might ask a friend, “Do you think I handled that okay?” Or text someone after a difficult conversation because you need to know they’re not upset with you. There’s nothing wrong with wanting reassurance. The problem is when you start feeling like you can’t trust your own thoughts, feelings, or decisions without someone else confirming them first. You may already know what you think or what you want. But instead of trusting yourself,

Have you ever made a decision, felt good about it, and then started questioning yourself five minutes later? Maybe you texted someone back and immediately wondered if you said the wrong thing. You made a decision about work, a relationship, or your plans for the weekend, and suddenly you’re running through every possible outcome. Or you find yourself going back and forth about something you thought you had already decided. Sometimes thinking things through is helpful. But the

As we all know, living with IBD is incredibly unpredictable. While many of us develop strategies to cope with flares, there’s a layer of stress and fatigue that often goes unspoken and sometimes unmanaged. The mental load of living with a chronic illness is one of the hardest parts to navigate. This mental load is the ongoing, day-to-day strain of managing IBD. It’s always there in the background. Sometimes subtle, sometimes overwhelming and over time, it can shift from gener

Saying no sounds simple. But if you're someone who struggles with people-pleasing, it can feel anything but simple. You may know you don't have the time, energy, or desire to do something, but the moment you think about saying no, the guilt kicks in. What if they're disappointed? What if they're upset with me? What if they think I'm being selfish? So you say yes. And then you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, resentful, or frustrated because you agreed to something you didn'

Do you find yourself worrying about how other people feel—even when their emotions aren’t yours to manage? Maybe you spend a lot of time trying to keep the peace. You carefully choose your words, avoid conflict, or find yourself feeling guilty when someone is disappointed with you. You may find yourself thinking: "Did I upset them?" "Should I have handled that differently?" "What can I do to make this better?" Caring about the people in your life is a wonderful quality. But t

When a flare begins to settle, people often assume the hard part is over. Your symptoms improve, your energy slowly returns, and life starts to feel a little more normal. But emotionally, recovery isn't always that simple. Many people tell me that even after they're physically feeling better, they still feel anxious. They find themselves paying close attention to every symptom, wondering if another flare is around the corner. They hesitate to make plans because they're afraid

Being kind is a wonderful quality. It helps us build meaningful relationships, support the people we care about, and create a sense of connection with others. But sometimes what looks like kindness on the outside is actually people-pleasing on the inside. The difference isn't always obvious, especially if you've spent years putting other people's needs before your own. You may think you're simply being thoughtful or helpful, when in reality you're saying yes out of guilt, fea

If you live with a chronic illness, you've probably had to cancel plans because you weren't feeling well. Maybe you woke up exhausted. Maybe your symptoms flared unexpectedly. Maybe you wanted to go, but your body had other plans. For many people, the hardest part isn't missing the event—it's the guilt that comes afterward. You may worry that you've let someone down. You wonder if they'll stop inviting you or think you're unreliable. You replay the text you sent to cancel and

Living with a chronic illness changes more than your physical health. It can also change the relationship you have with your body. Many people tell me they no longer trust their body the way they used to. Instead of feeling confident in it, they feel like they're constantly questioning it. "Is this just a normal stomach ache, or is a flare starting?" "Am I tired because I didn't sleep well, or is something wrong?" "Can I make plans this weekend, or will my symptoms get in the

One of the hardest parts of living with a chronic illness isn't always the illness itself. Sometimes, it's feeling misunderstood. When your symptoms aren't visible, people often assume you're doing fine. They see you smiling, going to work, or showing up for family events, and they naturally believe you're feeling okay. But what they don't see is everything happening behind the scenes. They don't see the fatigue you're pushing through. The anxiety about whether symptoms might

Like many of you, I have Crohn’s disease. I’ve had it for 22 years and while I’ve certainly learned how to manage flare-ups, I still struggle with the periods in between. Don’t get me wrong—those “in between” periods are obviously easier—but what can come with remission is fear. How long will this last? Am I eating and doing the right things to prolong this good period? If I get another flare, will I need to change my meds? In addition to having Crohn’s, I’m also a psychother

Have you ever worried that your feelings, needs, or struggles might be too much for someone else? Maybe you've hesitated to ask for help because you didn't want to be a burden. Perhaps you've downplayed your emotions, kept your worries to yourself, or avoided talking about your chronic illness because you didn't want people to feel overwhelmed. If so, you're not alone. Many people carry a fear of being "too much" for others. They worry that if they share too much, need too mu

Living with Inflammatory Bowel Disease (IBD) often means grappling with uncertainty. Even when symptoms are manageable, an underlying fear about health, the body, or what might happen next can linger. Doctor appointments, medications, procedures, flare-ups, hospital visits, and waiting for test results create emotional stress that can be hard for others to understand. Over time, many individuals with IBD find themselves constantly on alert, anticipating something might go wro

Talking about a chronic illness can feel complicated. You might want people to understand what you’re going through, but at the same time feel unsure how much to share — or who to trust with that information. You may worry about being seen differently, being misunderstood, or feeling like a burden. So instead, you keep parts of your experience to yourself. If this feels familiar, you’re not alone. Opening up about a chronic illness is deeply personal, and it makes sense that

Many people want close, meaningful relationships while also feeling afraid to let others in. They want connection, but worry that if they open up too much, they’ll be judged, disappointed, or rejected. If this feels familiar, you’re not alone. The fear of rejection can make vulnerability feel risky. Even when someone seems kind or trustworthy, it can still feel hard to share your feelings, needs, or true self. Part of you may want closeness, while another part wants to stay g

Anxiety can feel like a heavy weight pressing down on your chest. It sneaks up when you least expect it, making everyday tasks feel overwhelming. But here’s the good news - you don’t have to face it alone. With the rise of online support, managing anxiety has become more accessible and flexible than ever before. I want to share some insights and practical tips that have helped me and many others find calm in the chaos through online resources. Why Online Anxiety Management Ti

Breaking up is never easy. It can shake how you see yourself and leave you feeling lost or unsure. That’s a very real part of the process. But it’s also true that confidence can be rebuilt—and often in a stronger, more grounded way than before. When a relationship ends, it’s common for self-doubt to creep in. Thoughts like “Who am I without this person?” or “Am I enough?” can feel overwhelming. But those thoughts aren’t facts—they’re part of the emotional aftermath. There are

Have you ever made a decision, only to question it almost immediately? I know I have and it can be debilitating. You might replay what you said, rethink your choice, or wonder if you missed something important. Even small decisions — sending a text, choosing a meeting place, sharing your opinion — can suddenly feel uncertain. If you struggle with anxiety, this kind of second-guessing can become a familiar pattern. And over time, it can leave you feeling less confident in your

One of the most common struggles I see is this feeling of being stuck between two questions: Do I need to accept this… or try to change it? Am I giving up if I accept things as they are? Or am I fighting something I can’t control? It’s confusing, because both acceptance and change are important. And sometimes it’s hard to know which one is actually helpful in the moment. The truth is, acceptance and change aren’t opposites. They often work together. But knowing when to lean i

Self-compassion is often misunderstood. For some, it sounds like letting yourself off the hook. Lowering standards. Being too soft. Even selfish. But in practice, most people struggle with the opposite problem. They are far harder on themselves than they would ever be with someone else. They push through exhaustion.They replay mistakes.They hold themselves to impossible standards.They minimize their own needs while showing up fully for everyone else. And then, when the idea o